Is Your “Plan B” Holding You Back?

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I always prided myself on being a “Plan B” kind of woman.

I thought this meant I was flexible, adaptable, adventurous and courageous.

A “free-spirit.”

Over the years, I’ve come to discover is it also meant I was detached, uncommitted and not fully engaged.

I was living with one-foot-in and one-foot-out of most situations.

It didn’t matter whether it was a relationship, my business or where I was living.

I was always ready to go at a moment’s notice.

Again, I thought this meant I was laid-back, independent and unrestricted.

But now I see things with new eyes.

I was disengaged, holding back and protecting myself.

Protecting my heart from being broken.

Protecting myself from being disappointed.

Protecting myself from being hurt and, dare I say, “failing.”

If I didn’t give 100%, I always had an excuse.

If something was a little “off,” I could leave.  I could “run.”

Of course, I did this in a very glamorous way.

I traveled the world.  I reinvented myself.  I moved all over the country.

Don’t get me wrong, I had phenomenal experiences and met amazing people along the way.

I discovered new aspects of myself, learned a lot and have stories that surpass most.

I achieved extraordinary things and have a stellar resume and Bio.

My friend once asked, “Are you running ‘to’ something or ‘away’ from something?”

I was sure I was running “to,” but if I’m truly honest, I think I was running “from.”

I’m not judging my process, and I don’t have regrets.

When I started my online business a few years ago, I let go of my “Plan B.”

That year I chose “commitment” as my word and focus for the year.

Commitment to my business.

Commitment to my finances.

Commitment to my relationships.

Commitment to my body.

Commitment to living fully, passionately and ecstatically.

I opted for “Plan A.”

No excuses.  No running.  No escape plans.

Does it feel scary at times?  You bet!

It’s also exhilarating – exciting – and better than I ever imagined!

When you only have a “Plan A,” failure isn’t an option.

Even if things don’t go as planned, you still win!

Relationships are deeper – more honest – and more real.

You nourish your body.

You care for your finances.

You make self-honoring decisions.

When there’s no “Plan B,” you live with intention, self-love and self-respect.

Being in integrity with yourself becomes a non-negotiable.

So, what will you choose – “Plan A” or “Plan B?”


I’d love to hear what you decide and what’s next for you.  Leave a comment, and let me know!

Gabrielle Whitney
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